Emotions of Habit
Emotions of Habit
As well as rituals for how we dress for weddings, and behave on New Years Eve, we also have habitual ritual thoughts within our minds. These habitual thoughts become our regular emotions we feel on an ongoing basis. Purely through repetition.
For you to feel any emotion, there are certain things you have to picture in your mind, words you have got to say in your head and a certain perspective you have to adopt in relation to those images and words that then create the feeling in your body. When you train a muscle like your shoulder in one particular direction, the more you do it, the stronger the muscle becomes at moving in that direction.
The brain is a muscle too, so just like any other muscle in your body, if you get it to think of a certain collection of images or events you have experienced in your life and you look at these events from the perspective of making you feel bad, or unconfident, or incapable.
The more you fire this set of neuro associations off in your head, the easier it will be for you to fall into that emotion, no matter what opportunities exist for you today or ahead.
In fact the emotion can grow stronger over time just like a muscle grows in strength.
When our brains habitually go into the process/context of 'depression' or 'anger', Our brain will do this no matter what is occurring in the outside world. This then becomes what we call our reality. Have you ever managed to feel the same about your life even though your life situation may have changed vastly? Have you ever waited and waited to get away on vacation - only to find you feel exactly as bad on vacation as you did at home?
This is when we are living in our heads,
in the past or predicted future but never in the present.